PSYCHO EXES

We've all heard stories about a crazy ex. May it have been a friend, family or some hyped up, crazy post on social media. Well, I've experienced it myself. It wasn't an ex of mine, it was a friend's ex.

Okay, so let me give you some back story. When I was, I wanna say, a freshman in high school, I started talking to a guy I met through Instagram. He was so attractive and I couldn't believe he was single. We talked almost every day and really enjoyed it too.

I can't say I remember why we stopped talking back then, but I believe it was somewhere along the lines of either me being too young and dumb to know what I want or he was getting back together with his on and off again girlfriend. Point being, we stopped talking. Maybe every once a year he would check up on me just to see how I was doing. Nothing serious, just a quick text.

So here I am, now,  a junior in college. Out of the blue, i get a follow from the same guy from years ago. For the sake of not calling him this guy every time I reference to him, we'll call him "John". So, John followed me on twitter after a few years of absolutely having no contact with each other. I was curious to see how he was doing so I followed him back.

About a week later I get a message request from someone I didn't know on Instagram. Let's just say her name was "Lucy." The message basically was Lucy asking me if a guy named "John" had tried contacting me because he was going around messaging "so many" girls. She also said, "I'm in a tough position can you just be honest.. and if he has don't say anything to him please."
So I responded, "LOL, no you're good honey."She then kept saying that she was just worried and didn't know what to believe. I then went on reassuring her that everything was probably fine, she was just imagining things. Her face looked awfully familiar, it took me a while to remember. But guess who it was??? JOHN'S GIRLFRIEND.  Still, even though I found it completely crazy for her to do something like that, I went on with my day.

About a month later, I get another message from Lucy.
"Hey girl I need your help," she said.
I responded with, "Sup."
So she then asks me if he tried contacting me. I told her the truth and said no. You'd think that'd be enough to get this chick off my back and into her man's arms, BUT NO. She then goes on to ask if she can trust me to do something for her. I know I should've said no or stopped replying, but if you know me, you know I love to see shit hit the fan. I told her it just depends on what she had in mind. She wanted me to message him and tell him to text me!!! I then asked her how many other girls she had asked to do this before me and she said none, just me. So I asked her why me? and she had the audacity to bring faith into this. She said, "I am honestly a girl of faith and I swear your name came to mind. So I went with you." I was like okay Miss Cleo, whatever you say.

So I messaged John and told her. I also added that I didn't think he would reply to me. So about an hour after messaging him....HE REPLIES. So he's basically just asking how I am, and what's changed since the last time we talked. He then says he lost my number and tells me he still has the same number, but, of course, I don't have it and I tell him. And without me giving him my number, he texts me. HE DID HAVE MY NUMBER, he was just trying to play it cool.
I felt very weird about this whole situation and asked myself what the right thing to do would be. Should I help this Lucy out even though I don't know her? or should I tell John, someone I've known for years, what his girlfriend is up to?

I decided that calling John and explaining the whole situation would be best. And that's exactly what I did. When he finished listening to everything I had to say, he just stayed silent. I asked John what was wrong and he just says, "JUDY. LUCY AND I HAVE BEEN BROKEN UP FOR MONTHS!!!!"
When I heard John say that all I could think was, "Oh my gosh, what a crazy psycho!!!!" How can someone still be caught up on what their ex is doing or who they're talking to now?? John then told me that this wasn't the first time she's tried having girls contact him as a favor to her. He said it was only getting worse and that he's trying to completely get her out of his life. I never replied to Lucy again.

Moral of the story is... Y'all be careful, the only thing worse than a crazy girlfriend is a CRAZY EX-GIRLFRIEND. And well girls, don't be the crazy ex-girlfriend, it's not a good look.

THE GOOD AND THE BAD.

Here it is, Kissing Toads.
Mistakes, experiences, emotions and more all jumbled up into one blog.  I know I haven't been through it all when it comes to relationships, but I'd like to take you along on my journey. I hope that with this blog you can either learn from what I have to say or just have a good laugh.
Most of the time people are afraid of talking about relationships, the good and the bad. They don't wanna talk about the bad because they're afraid of being judged or simply embarrassed by what happened. They don't wanna talk about the good because they might jinx the good they have going on, or they don't wanna sound like they're bragging. Talking is therapeutic, and I feel that everything is worth speaking about. The good and the bad.
Now, I'm not saying go around and let everyone know what you're going through. Just let it out every once in a while, may it be to yourself or a close friend. I feel that its best to talk to someone who is going through the same things.
For example, a while ago I went through a dark, self-hating phase. I felt like I wasn't good enough for anyone and that I was just living life through the motions without any purpose. I felt so alone. Of course, my friends noticed and questioned what was wrong. I explained that I felt so alone, unwanted. They, of course, gave me the cliche responses, "Everything will be fine," "Just give it some time, things will get better on their own," "Don't rush love." But that didn't help at all. After a few nights of feeling this way I went out to a small BBQ and met with some friends, I hadn't seen in a while. The night went on, we had a good night. I needed a ride back to my car and a close friend that I hadn't spoken to in a LONG time offered me a ride. On the way to my car she asked, "So are you talking to anyone?" and you will not believe the conversation we had after that. I wanna say we stayed in her car for a good hour just releasing all these pent-up emotions. It felt so good to finally talk to someone who was going through the same things I was. I swear she would say something and all I could say was, "GIRL, SAAAAAAAMEEEEEEEE!" I felt like she genuinely knew what I was going through. I didn't need her to give me crappy advice to try and fix my issues, I just needed to know that I wasn't alone and there's other people going through the same things.
We talked about the bad in our love lives, but it felt so damn good letting it all out.