Why You're Falling For the Wrong Guy

Here are some reasons on why you might be falling for the wrong guy.

1. Your greatest fear is being alone.
When you fear being alone it's because you truly haven't developed a strong sense of self. This can lead you to choose romances from a place of desperation instead of a place of strength.

2. You haven't clarified what your deal breakers are.
Think about what you really don't want in a partner. Think of your values and what traits you want your partner to have. Clarifying these things will definitely help you when trying to find Mr. Right.

3. You think you can change him.
If you go in to a relationship thinking you can fix him, you've already failed. If you're trying to change something about him the reality might be that he showed signs of having one of your deal breakers. He won't change, and it will only lead to heartbreak and disappointment.

4. You haven't figured out what you want in life.
This is probably the most important thing when it comes to trying to break old dating patterns. we will continue to make the same mistake until we learn a lesson from it. If you have daddy issues you might always fall for a guy who treats you like a little girl. Not too sure of what your purpose in life is? You probably date workaholics. Address your own issues and you'll attract guys with less baggage.

5. You choose guys with similar qualities.
We gravitate towards what we're familiar with. Try dating outside your type.

6. You may be afraid of commitment.
Without realizing it, you could be afraid of the thing you want most, commitment. Have you ever wondered why you always end up with partners who are afraid of being in a committed relationship? It's because you have issues of your own.

7. You don't think you deserve better.
The people you date are a direct reflection of the value you place on yourself. It all comes down to us and what we feel we deserve.

New Year's Resolutions For When You're Single and Not Ready to Mingle.

1. Open yourself up to new possibilities.
When I say this I don't necessarily mean go out there and meet new people. What I mean is the complete opposite. Don't try and date, just go out and be more social. When going out don't have the intentions of meeting someone or flirting, just socialize. You can never have too many friends.

2. Treat yourself.
Take yourself out on dates. If you fear going out alone or having a meal alone, get over it. You'd probably be a better date than half of the dates you've ever gone on. Plus, you can order as much food as you want and drink the whole bottle of wine without having to share.

3. Don't talk to those creeps on dating apps.
It can seem entertaining to message those creeps because it gives you a good laugh, but in reality it's waisting your time. I'm not saying delete your app, just don't waste your time on someone that you know isn't worth pursuing.

4. Get yourself a hobby.
Hobbies can keep you busy and can distract you from almost anything. Take up something that interests you like painting, photography or learning a new language.

5. Buy your own flowers.
Being single makes me miss the little things, the small gestures that your significant other knew you appreciated and made you happy. Since I miss those things and have no one I resolve to do them on my own. I'll buy my own flowers or buy my own bottle of wine. In essence, I'll supply my own happiness.

6. Move past your ex.
No matter if it's been a week, a month, even a year, there's no time like the present to realize that you're life is much better without them. Don't forget that y'all broke up for a reason, and remind yourself of that reason overtime you start to slip into thinking your ex was the best. You're the best, not them, and sooner or later they'll be kicking themselves in the ass wondering why they ever let you go.

7. Promise to cross something off your bucket list.
If you realized you haven't done much off your bucket list, I suggest you get to it. Being single gives you a lot of time and you should definitely use it to your advantage.

8. Make 2017 about you.
Don't make the new year about meeting someone new. If it happens, it happens. But if it doesn't, well, it doesn't. I hate to be cliche, but the rest will fall into place, all in due time.